read xiao yu's blog.
it's about something that i want to blog yesterday but failed to do so as my com is super lousy.
haha. well. it's about winning.
he was saying that he felt angry when he loss.
well, everyone does felt that way before right?

let me share something here ((:

You don’t have to win every time.

Ultracompetitive people, who always need to win, end up enjoying things less. If they lose they are very disappointed, and if they win it’s what they expected would happen anyway. Therefore, I find that being happy after working hard is the most important thing. Since we have given it our best, let’s just sit back and enjoy our own results. It might not be very pleasant but at least we know we had tried.
Competitiveness can preclude life satisfaction because no accomplishment can prove sufficient, and failures are particularly devastating. Ultracompetitive people rate their successes with lower marks than some people rate their failures.

but, we still need competition to motivate us in doing things well. therefore,
Choose your comparisons wisely.

Many of our feelings of satisfaction or dissatisfaction have their roots in how we compare ourselves to others. When we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful. Even thought the truth is we have exactly the same life either way, our feelings about our life can vary tremendously based on whom we compare ourselves with. Compare yourself with those examples that are meaningful but that make you feel comfortable with who you are and what you have.

Remember: if we think that we are already very good, there is always people who are better then us.

easy to understand? hope so ya. so, think carefully.
also, don't feel too bad or unhappy for too long. it wont help in improving your results.
DO something. (:

"Happy people let themselves be happy. Unhappy people continue doing things that upset them."
remember this. haha


happy and unhappy people tend to have had very similar life experiences. The difference is that the average unhappy person spends more then twice as much time thinking about unpleasant events in thief lives, while happy people tend to seek and reply upon information that brightens their personal outlook.

so, it's all the same.